Have you tried to imagine what it’s like being a newborn baby? Your only way to call somebody and tell them something is crying. If you’re hungry or need a dry diaper, you’re crying. If you want someone to just be there or talk with you, you’re still crying. You don’t understand the words your parents utter, but do “hear” and “see” their underlying emotions.
I think that babies are phenomenal at knowing how you really feel. Moreover, their own emotions, being at this point beyond words, are much deeper, stronger, and brighter (while for adults words can often serve as a sort of a “shock insulator”). It’s a great chance to experiment with some supportive messages.
These messages might seem obvious, but it’s a good idea to actually focus on them and act truly radiating this mood through our bodies, as we care for our babies. This is the language babies really need from day one:
Message 1: I am happy that you are here. I am happy that you live. I am happy that you exist.
Message 2: You are a part of this world. You belong to this world.
Message 3: You are perfect the way you are. You are amazing the way you are.
Message 4: Your feelings and needs are important to me.
Message 5: You are allowed to feel all your feelings. You are allowed to feel however you like.
Mom and dad can either send them right from their hearts as warm feelings or say them out loud to the baby. I do both most of the times I pick up Sonya.
Although it can be very tough when the baby is crying, it’s when the tiny one needs these warm and reassuring thoughts the most. Earlier, I shared what mindset helps me feel love and inspiration even at tough times.
These simple messages are vital for fostering our babies’ confidence and ability to live happily and create happy relationships in the future. They are one of the amazing gifts you can give to your baby!